Feel like your heart’s been stomped on by a pair of sturdy Doc Martens?
It might be time to work with a Heartbreak Coach
I’m your go-to girl when it comes to your heartbreak. I’m here to give you a great big virtual hug, take your brokenhearted (yet amazing) self by the hand and show you that your life is not over.
Well, I’d probably have enough money to commission NASA to build us all a time-travelling machine.
Because honestly, at some point or another, we’ve all wished for a magical fast-forward, get-me-the-heck-out-of-here button. Especially after a breakup, when getting out of bed each morning feels akin to – if not harder than – pushing a bloody boulder up a hill.
And amidst all the uncertainty, you’re likely craving a bit of reassurance, comfort, and hope that life *will* get better.
(As right now, it probably sucks.)
If this is you, snuggle in and get comfy. I have some good news for you. While NASA perfects their time travelling device, I’ve gone ahead and tapped into the wisdom of Future You.
Yep, Future You: The older, wiser version of you that’s looking back at Present You (that’s the cute face reading this article right now) with a wholeeee lot of love, empathy, and compassion.
And while Future You can’t whisk you into a pain-free future just yet (… apparently even Future NASA are taking their time figuring out the time travelling thing), she *does* have a message for you.
Actually, she has a few of them.
Sure, the credits might be rolling on your relationship, but a new beginning is about to open up.
And that is a wonderful thought. At every point in time, when one thing ends, another begins. And we often enter our new beginning through a door that we never could have pushed opened if our hands were still holding onto the past!
I know it feels like it right now. It’s normal to be mourning the loss of your future life with your ex. But keep in mind that these setbacks aren’t the finish line. They’re just things you need to overcome to continue your path ahead.
So, don’t ever think that things are ‘over’ for you. Your future has heaps of amazing potential. ‘Good things’ don’t have an expiry date or a limit per person. Your life will be filled with joy again. Just think: How many times have you already been able to look back and laugh at things that you previously cried about?
I know breakups are terrible and painful, but if you could find a person who truly made you happy, who you enjoyed spending every moment with, who shared your interests and loved you inside and out, how many breakups would you go through to find them; to find that perfect person for you? Five? Ten?
No matter how many it took; wouldn’t it all be worth it in the end? Wouldn’t they be worth it? When you eventually found this person, wouldn’t you look back, smile, and say it all happened for a reason? Uh-huh. Now you’re getting it, gorgeous.
Because, once all of this is over, you won’t even care you went through this. Instead, you’ll see this breakup as a blessing. And in many ways, it is. In the end, each breakup is a stepping-stone to the right relationship. You learn what to look for in a partner, and you learn how to be a better partner too.
*If that’s what you want. You don’t need to find ‘the one’ to thrive, have fun, and enjoy your life. Speaking of which …
The dangerous thing about breakups is that they can leave us full of self-doubt and uncertainty. Sometimes we don’t get the clarity we want (or deserve) about why a relationship ended. And sometimes our relationships end in a way that makes us doubt whether we were loved and were/are loveable.
But believe me: You’re absolutely, unbelievably, undeniably, wholeheartedly magnificent, and loveable.
A relationship won’t make you more or less than what you are. Finding someone you love may – or may not – be the icing on the cake for you. But it’s not the whole cake. And cakes without icing are still 100% delicious. (Just ask muffins.)
You don’t need a knight in shining armour to rescue you (although you have full permission to yoink his pretty white horse).
You’re fully capable of climbing down from that tower and saving yourself.
So, keep your chin up, your faith strong, and your eyes open for the little miracles all around you – because they are there, just waiting to be found.
Need a little help searching?
Every hero(ine) deserves a sidekick.
You don’t have to go through this alone. Let’s get you some (professional, expert, and loving af) support.
Book in for your complimentary 30-minute call with me, and we’ll explore how you can transform confusion into clarity for your heart-fuelled future.
I’m your go-to girl when it comes to your heartbreak. I’m here to give you a great big virtual hug, take your brokenhearted (yet amazing) self by the hand and show you that your life is not over. You are loved. You are safe. And I promise it’s going to be (totally better) than okay.